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| − | Your spouse or partner may feel just as scared by your cancer as you do. You both may feel anxious, helpless, or afraid. You may even find it hard to be taken care of by someone you love.
| + | 您的配偶或伴侣可能会像您一样受到癌症的恐惧。 你们俩可能会感到焦虑，无助或恐惧。 您甚至可能会发现很难被您所爱的人照顾。 |
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| − | Some relationships get stronger during cancer treatment. Others are weakened. Nearly all couples feel more stress than usual when cancer occurs. They often feel stress about:
| + | 在癌症治疗期间，某些关系会变得更牢固。 其他人则被削弱。 发生癌症时，几乎所有夫妻都会比平时承受更大的压力。 他们经常感到压力： |
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| − | *Knowing how to best support each other and how to communicate | + | *知道如何最好地互相支持以及如何交流 |
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| − | *Dealing with new feelings that come up | + | *处理出现的新感觉 |
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| − | *Making decisions | + | *做出决定 |
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| − | *Juggling lots of roles (such as childcare, housekeeping, work, and caregiving) | + | *扮演许多角色（例如育儿，家政，工作和护理） |
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| − | *Changing their social life | + | *改变他们的社交生活 |
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| − | *Changing their daily routine | + | *改变他们的日常活动 |
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| − | *Not feeling connected sexually | + | *不感到性关系 |
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| − | It helps to know that people express their emotions in different ways. Some like to talk things out or focus on other people. Others like to focus inward by doing things, such as washing the dishes or fixing things around the house. These differences can cause tension because each person may expect the other to act the way they would in their place. To reduce stress, it may help to remind yourself that everyone reacts differently. But if you don't feel like your communication needs are being met, you may want to seek help from a counselor or social worker.
| + | 有助于了解人们以不同的方式表达自己的情感。 有些人喜欢大声说出来或专注于其他人。 其他人则喜欢通过做事向内集中精力，例如洗碗或在房子周围固定东西。 这些差异可能会导致紧张局势，因为每个人都可能期望另一个人按照自己的位置行事。 为了减轻压力，这可能有助于提醒自己每个人的反应都不同。 但是，如果您感觉自己的沟通需求无法满足，您可能需要寻求顾问或社会工作者的帮助。 |
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| − | I was so scared when my husband got cancer. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to help him or that he might not recover. And I was afraid to talk about my fears with him because I didn't want to upset him.
| + | 我丈夫得了癌症我很害怕。 我担心我无法帮助他，否则他可能无法康复。 我很害怕和他谈论我的恐惧，因为我不想让他难过。 |
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| − | Ilene
| + | 伊琳娜 |
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| − | '''Ways to Improve Communication''' | + | '''改善沟通的方式''' |
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| − | Some couples find it easier to talk about serious issues than other couples. Only you and your partner know how you feel about this. The sections below may help you think about ways to communicate that work for both of you.
| + | 一些夫妇发现谈论严重问题比其他夫妇更容易。 只有您和您的伴侣知道您对此的看法。 以下各节可能会帮助您考虑交流适用于双方的方法。 |
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| − | '''Share the Decisions''' | + | '''分享决定''' |
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| − | Including your spouse or partner in treatment decisions is important. Together you can meet with your doctor and learn about common symptoms, your treatment choices, and their side effects. This will help you plan for the upcoming weeks and months.
| + | 让您的配偶或伴侣参与治疗决定很重要。 您可以一起与医生见面，并了解常见症状，治疗选择及其副作用。 这将帮助您为接下来的几周和几个月计划。 |
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| − | '''Help Each Other''' | + | '''互相帮助''' |
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| − | Everyone needs to feel needed and loved. You may have always been the "strong one" in your family, but now is the time to let your loved one help you. This can be as simple as letting the other person fluff your pillow, bring you a cool drink, or read to you. And in turn, make sure you help your partner. You can simply express gratitude and let them know you understand it's a tough time for them too.
| + | 每个人都需要感到需要和被爱。 您可能一直是家庭中的“强者”，但是现在是时候让您的亲人帮助您了。 这可以很简单，就像让其他人绒毛您的枕头，为您带来清凉的饮料或朗读给您一样。 反过来，请确保您能帮助您的伴侣。 您可以简单地表达感激之情，让他们知道您也对他们来说也是艰难的时刻。 |
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| − | '''Be Open about Stress''' | + | '''对压力保持开放''' |
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| − | Some things that cause stress for you and your partner can't be solved right now. And yet sometimes talking about these things can be helpful. Look at the issues that bother you such as dealing with the unknown or feeling a strain between you. You may want to say up front, "I know we can't solve this today. But I'd like to just talk about how it's going and how we're feeling." Getting things out into the open may help you both.
| + | 目前无法解决一些给您和您的伴侣造成压力的事情。 但是有时谈论这些事情可能会有所帮助。 查看困扰您的问题，例如与未知事物打交道或在彼此之间感到紧张。 您可能要先说：“我知道我们今天无法解决这个问题。但是，我只想谈一谈事情的进展和我们的感受。” 公开发布可能对你们俩都有帮助。 |
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| − | '''Be a Team''' | + | '''成为团队''' |
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| − | You and your partner may need to be a team now more than ever. It may help to think things through together. Talk about what decisions you should make together and which ones you should make alone. You may want to decide what tasks to share and if other people in your life could help with them.
| + | 您和您的伴侣现在可能比以往更需要成为一个团队。 一起思考可能会有所帮助。 讨论您应该一起做出哪些决定，以及应该独自做出哪些决定。 您可能要决定要共享的任务，以及生活中的其他人是否可以帮助他们。 |
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| − | '''Make Dates''' | + | '''约会''' |
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| − | Many couples find that it helps to plan special occasions. Some days may end up being better than others, depending on how your partner feels. So you may need to be okay with last-minute changes.
| + | 许多夫妇发现这有助于计划特殊场合。 某些日子可能最终会比其他日子更好，这取决于您伴侣的感觉。 因此，您可能需要对最新更改有所了解。 |
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| − | Your dates don't have to be fancy. It's about spending time together. That can mean renting a movie, going out to eat or for an event, or looking through old photos. It can be whatever you both like to do. You can also plan these dates to include other people, if you miss being around others.
| + | 您的约会不必花哨。 这是花时间在一起。 这可能意味着要租借电影，出去吃饭或参加活动或翻阅旧照片。 你们俩都可以做。 如果您想和其他人约会，还可以计划这些日期以包括其他人。 |
与您的配偶或伴侣面对癌症
您的配偶或伴侣可能会像您一样受到癌症的恐惧。 你们俩可能会感到焦虑，无助或恐惧。 您甚至可能会发现很难被您所爱的人照顾。
在癌症治疗期间，某些关系会变得更牢固。 其他人则被削弱。 发生癌症时，几乎所有夫妻都会比平时承受更大的压力。 他们经常感到压力：
有助于了解人们以不同的方式表达自己的情感。 有些人喜欢大声说出来或专注于其他人。 其他人则喜欢通过做事向内集中精力，例如洗碗或在房子周围固定东西。 这些差异可能会导致紧张局势，因为每个人都可能期望另一个人按照自己的位置行事。 为了减轻压力，这可能有助于提醒自己每个人的反应都不同。 但是，如果您感觉自己的沟通需求无法满足，您可能需要寻求顾问或社会工作者的帮助。
我丈夫得了癌症我很害怕。 我担心我无法帮助他，否则他可能无法康复。 我很害怕和他谈论我的恐惧，因为我不想让他难过。
伊琳娜
改善沟通的方式
一些夫妇发现谈论严重问题比其他夫妇更容易。 只有您和您的伴侣知道您对此的看法。 以下各节可能会帮助您考虑交流适用于双方的方法。
分享决定
让您的配偶或伴侣参与治疗决定很重要。 您可以一起与医生见面，并了解常见症状，治疗选择及其副作用。 这将帮助您为接下来的几周和几个月计划。
互相帮助
每个人都需要感到需要和被爱。 您可能一直是家庭中的“强者”，但是现在是时候让您的亲人帮助您了。 这可以很简单，就像让其他人绒毛您的枕头，为您带来清凉的饮料或朗读给您一样。 反过来，请确保您能帮助您的伴侣。 您可以简单地表达感激之情，让他们知道您也对他们来说也是艰难的时刻。
对压力保持开放
目前无法解决一些给您和您的伴侣造成压力的事情。 但是有时谈论这些事情可能会有所帮助。 查看困扰您的问题，例如与未知事物打交道或在彼此之间感到紧张。 您可能要先说：“我知道我们今天无法解决这个问题。但是，我只想谈一谈事情的进展和我们的感受。” 公开发布可能对你们俩都有帮助。
成为团队
您和您的伴侣现在可能比以往更需要成为一个团队。 一起思考可能会有所帮助。 讨论您应该一起做出哪些决定，以及应该独自做出哪些决定。 您可能要决定要共享的任务，以及生活中的其他人是否可以帮助他们。
约会
许多夫妇发现这有助于计划特殊场合。 某些日子可能最终会比其他日子更好，这取决于您伴侣的感觉。 因此，您可能需要对最新更改有所了解。
您的约会不必花哨。 这是花时间在一起。 这可能意味着要租借电影，出去吃饭或参加活动或翻阅旧照片。 你们俩都可以做。 如果您想和其他人约会，还可以计划这些日期以包括其他人。
